[It's just a soggy shirt. His entire shirt could get soaked in tears and snot and it'd be worth it if it helped Tim vent out some of the things he's feeling somewhere.]
And you're right, you not letting things go isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes you're like Krypto with his favorite manhole cover and people can't pry you off some kind of problem you're fixated on solving.
And then you solve it. And it helps someone.
Your brain just kinda works like that.
[He knows him and how that kind of fixation while not exactly always healthy, is an important part of his method. It's the detective, refusing to give up on finding leads for a case.]
[It saves lives and lets Tim do the work, walk the path he finds so important.]
And I know it sounds totally crazy and counterproductive but the way through is... is just feeling it and not treating it like a problem to be solved.
He needs to be found, sure, but that's different from the stuff going on in your head, because he could be stopped tomorrow and you'd still be feeling stuff you had to deal with.
So you let the bad stuff vent out as long as you need to and eventually something in your brain will decide it's time to make room for something else. For the good stuff again.
[On a general basis, he is not exactly Mr. Feelings. It had to do with that whole macho persona he'd put on when he was younger, in imitation of what he thought being cool and adult was.]
[But it was always very false. It means a lot of people don't know how perceptive he can be.]
[Sometimes he forgets it.]
No one ever tells you that it's normal to grieve for a little bit after getting hurt really bad just like you do when you lose someone. But it is, if you got messed with bad enough.
It's normal to feel like you lost something because you've lost being the person that didn't know how that particular bad thing felt. But that doesn't mean you'll never feel good again, either.
[He still hasn't let go. He's still hugging him, even if he's loosened his grip a little.]
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[It's just a soggy shirt. His entire shirt could get soaked in tears and snot and it'd be worth it if it helped Tim vent out some of the things he's feeling somewhere.]
And you're right, you not letting things go isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes you're like Krypto with his favorite manhole cover and people can't pry you off some kind of problem you're fixated on solving.
And then you solve it. And it helps someone.
Your brain just kinda works like that.
[He knows him and how that kind of fixation while not exactly always healthy, is an important part of his method. It's the detective, refusing to give up on finding leads for a case.]
[It saves lives and lets Tim do the work, walk the path he finds so important.]
And I know it sounds totally crazy and counterproductive but the way through is... is just feeling it and not treating it like a problem to be solved.
He needs to be found, sure, but that's different from the stuff going on in your head, because he could be stopped tomorrow and you'd still be feeling stuff you had to deal with.
So you let the bad stuff vent out as long as you need to and eventually something in your brain will decide it's time to make room for something else. For the good stuff again.
[On a general basis, he is not exactly Mr. Feelings. It had to do with that whole macho persona he'd put on when he was younger, in imitation of what he thought being cool and adult was.]
[But it was always very false. It means a lot of people don't know how perceptive he can be.]
[Sometimes he forgets it.]
No one ever tells you that it's normal to grieve for a little bit after getting hurt really bad just like you do when you lose someone. But it is, if you got messed with bad enough.
It's normal to feel like you lost something because you've lost being the person that didn't know how that particular bad thing felt. But that doesn't mean you'll never feel good again, either.
[He still hasn't let go. He's still hugging him, even if he's loosened his grip a little.]