"I'll make it worth your while," Tim says. Not to offer a bribe (he is offering a bribe), but as a fair trade to prompt unprompted exchanges of information.

(He knows that he would find ways to rationalize his secrets. Subtle reinterpretations of the parameters, shift those goal posts back.)

"I'll answer a direct question about me every time you come to me to ask for help or advice. It has to be about me. I won't tell you anyone else's secrets. And asking for help has to be related to your coping mechanisms for stress and grief. Don't bring me a jar of pickles and tell me it's stuck."